Ever wish you were thinner, smarter, richer, toner, more creative, less emotional, more expressive, or any other descriptor that describes someone else? It’s tough to just admit that we are enough…not perfect, but good enough just as we are. It takes courage to just stop and tell that inner voice that you disagree…that you, in fact, choose to change the dial from a blaring station of harsh, critical judgement to a more compassionate, gentle tone as if you were speaking to someone you loved and cared for!
Of course, like all things practice makes progress, just like any other routine…yoga, meditation, savings, etc. We are never perfect…it is a futile cycle to aim for such. In my recovery as a perfectionist I took a good look at the relationship I had with my body, but the issue of ‘not good enough’ can show up anywhere: work, school, family, relationships. There will continuously be a feeling of dissatisfaction with external factors as long as you carry the shame of not measuring up internally.
In an effort to really examine this theme I have explored all the masks and aids I once used to measure up. In 2007 I created a series of sculptures and installations titled Stripped. This series included pieces like My Short Skirt and Cover Ups where I used pantyhose and lipstick to cover limestone.
This past weekend I hung another piece from the series called The Wonder Bra in participation with a local art project called Random Acts of Art to beautify vacant lots and buildings in downtown Phoenix. I made this piece some six years ago as a symbol of moving past the need to enhance or change my body in any way. After showing it a couple of times at Pratt Institute in NY as part of their body image exhibit I have kept it as a reminder of what I had let go of and no longer needed. When I received notice to hang an artwork I managed to ignore the instruction to hang in a vacant area. Rather, I immediately envisioned this piece in a populated area in order to share this message, not just decorate the community…to empower others to see themselves as good enough without cover-ups, enhancements, and continuous judgment to be anything other than you are!I recorded the process of this hanging to share both the actual art and to remind you that you are beautiful in your imperfections, and while you may want to make changes to improve the quality of your life… you must accept who and where you are now in order to move beyond any current limitations. Radical acceptance of who we are is truly a blessing that fuels the change we crave. So turn your volume up just a bit and enjoy this video as a reminder that we are all enough…just as we are: flawed and gorgeous in our own unique ways! When you’re done post a comment and let me know what you are willing to accept today! What part of yourself can you begin to gently embrace, regardless of imperfection?!