As a therapist and recovering perfectionist I am all too familiar with how destructive it is to ‘should’ on myself and others. I have been telling clients for years “don’t should on me and I won’t should on you.” Of course I can’t take credit for this clever line…Albert Ellis called it “musterbation.” I never tire of watching the reaction when I point out to someone they seem to be “shoulding all over the place.” We all do it…put pressure on ourself to perform with “should, must, ought to,” but it rarely helps us reach our goal than if we take action without such judgment. Self-criticism is especially effective at squelching our creativity. Its pretty difficult to be spontaneous and playful when we are busy playing the critic. Just for today notice your own self-talk. Are you inviting space for joy and gratitude by dismissing the voice that says you ‘should’ be anything other than who/how you are?! Or are you listening to the head trash that prevents you from celebrating your own innate creativity…which we all have if we choose to ignore old messages that speak otherwise! Just for today, allow yourself to enjoy the beauty of the present moment without any ‘shoulds’ to interfere!